‘Dear Boys World…’ – our new advice column

Internet darlings Boys World have taken over TikTok and now they’re here to help tackle your problems! This week, Olivia, Queenie, and Elana from your new favourite pop group, answer your questions about how to pursue a career in music, share tips on how to stop seeking too much validation from others, and tackle the million dollar question – how to bounce back from heartbreak.

“Dear Boys World, do you have any advice for people who want to start doing music professionally but don’t know where to begin?” – @HERRONSRUBY

When you’re first starting your music journey it can be daunting to think about where to start; we’ve all been there. However, the best thing to do and the biggest advice we could give you is to think about the present moment. Ask yourself, “what resources do I  have around myself that I can use?” Whenever we are in a room with writers, producers, directors or anyone we can learn from, we act like sponges. Learning from them as they work or talk to us. Before being in the group, a lot of us used YouTube tutorials to teach ourselves how to play instruments and write songs.

We even watched interviews and documentaries of artists who talk about their experience of how they started in the music industry. Maybe you could start with your favourite song! Look up who the writers are, who produced it, who mixed it and then search their names up. Grab your phone, a notebook, and a pen and just start! Don’t wait to be in the perfect mood for it. Don’t let the fear of failure or even just starting keep you from doing what you love. Anything worth having takes time; stay patient with yourself!

“Dear Boys World. Lately, I’ve been trying to be less codependent and start validating myself but it’s so hard. Do you guys have any tips for those who constantly seek validation from others?” – @bunniescda

Ooo!! This is a great question! Always remember that you have just as much credibility as anyone else. No matter their experience, you are just as valid — try not to compare yourself and put yourselves down. You are worthy of everything that you receive. No one can make you believe in yourself. You have to make sure that you have your own back because no one else will.  It’s okay to get outside opinions but don’t let theirs outweigh your own. It can be really hard but here are some things to practice to help out!! Try affirmations in the mirror “I am beautiful. I am strong. I am independent. I am powerful” Try having a day to yourself and do all the things that make you happy and be authentic to yourself.

The moment when a question is asked, take a pause and reflect to see how you truly feel before seeing what others think before answering the question. Not everyone in this world will like you for who you truly are and that is the truth that is very hard to accept, but one day you’ll be able to sit comfortably with that mentality and continue to live your life the way you want. It’s important to compromise with others but it’s also important to stand your ground and be confident in what you have to say or how you feel. Be all of who you are and pick and choose the people around you that you wanna keep close and who are only there to uplift you and not tear you down.

“Dear Boys World, what are your top suggestions to try and get over heartbreak?” – @issaaa.kay

Hi!!? Thank you so much for asking this question. We understand that heartbreak can be extremely hard and it’s unfortunately something that almost everyone goes through at some point in their life. Listen, you are not alone. You just have to know you deserve more and take care of yourself! Time really does heal and this feeling will pass. You should allow yourself to cry and be angry at first. Don’t allow those emotions to build up. Surround yourself with people you love and trust like a close relative or best friend! We recommend keeping a journal to write about how you’re feeling or if that doesn’t work for you, make a breakup playlist. Music truly is therapy.

Don’t forget lots of self-care whether that’s face masks, binging your favourite shows, or spending the day with friends. Remember that when you love yourself first, you will attract the right people into your life. breakups always happen for a reason and there will be something better out there for you. we hope that you can fall back in love with yourself. Good luck.

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